Who am I and what’s the story behind Divamum.

Hello and welcome, I’m Steph, Bristol based 33 year old mum and wife.

I started blogging in 2016 around the time my daughter was born. Her arrival felt like a complete ambush on my life and this blog became my outlet. My unconventional writing style of stringing together complaints and overusing the word fuck, soon generated a following and gave me the confidence to continue to write my most vulnerable thoughts and share them with other likeminded women and mothers.

My blog was originally parent focused after birthing my daughter, who was born in withdrawal from antidepressant medication and spent ten days in NICU – and is somehow now a sassy five year old, at school with a brother in tow. Seriously, WTAF I swear I only blinked.

In the year succeeding my daughter’s birth I was diagnosed with the chronic health condition fibromyalgia. This prompted me to take my blog in a different direction and focus a lot of my health and it’s impact on my ability to function as a parent. I also live with Chronic Migraine and Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, this meaning my life is a constant juggling act of symptom management and recovery. It seemed wild to me that I would open up my life as a parent blogger, speaking candidly about mental health and not touch on the subjects that impact my parenting every day of the year. The conditions I live with are so often misunderstood the need for awareness is paramount and if I can enlighten just one person to these complex conditions- I’m doing something right.

My family and I, summer of 2021

What has became notable to me as I open up my life is that writing has provided salvation, whilst also becoming a major passion of mine. When I think about it, I’m hit with the realisation that deep down it’s always been a form of therapy for me.

I have a wonderful -if infuriating at times- husband, whom I love spending time with and after welcoming our son earlier in the summer of 2021 he has been my rock. When you read through some of my blogs you’ll see current themes of struggle. That’s because the reality is I have struggled, socially, physically and mentally.

Since birthing my second child I’ve had a shift in mindset and I’m pouring all of my energy into recovery. I suffered a breakdown in my mental health at the end of my second pregnancy and as a result I have had to embark on a journey of change. A wise man said to me You have to do different to feel different so for the first time in my life I’m embracing change.

Thank you so much for stopping by to read my blog. I hope you’ll find, honesty, relatable content and maybe even some inspiration.

Wheelchair bound pregnant with Kaiser 2021